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Truthy Tuesday: Getting Unstuck by Letting Go

truthy tuesday with joanna platt

{By Guest Maven, Joanna Platt}

Two weeks ago I finished all of my requirements for my coach training program.

I am officially a Certified Professional Coach and an Energy Leadership Master Practitioner. Not only do I have all the credentials I need to move my business full speed ahead, but I have the time to make it happen.

Throughout my training I’d been brainstorming ways to grow my business and was actively trying to get my name out there and let people know what I was up to. Though I’d had some leads here and there, not much was really happening.

I was so excited when a sorority sister reached out to me on Facebook to set up a meeting. We had a complimentary session and it went great. She wanted to get coaching around a career change, one of my favorite topics, and it seemed like a good fit. I was excited and she was excited. I sent over a coaching agreement and a list of next steps.

When she responded to my email saying she’d changed her mind, I was bummed. Super bummed. I cried quite a bit. But then, I realized I was kind of relieved. When I took her sessions off my calendar, I was happy. Happy because my weeknights were free.

Since graduating from college, my weeknights have always been packed. After realizing that my dream job of teacher was actually not for me, I started spinning my wheels trying to figure out what I was going to do with my life. And in the process I packed my schedule to numb the pain of not knowing.

I worked part-time at Barnes and Noble and had up to seven tutoring students at a given time. Meanwhile, I used the tuition benefit from my full-time job at a university to take classes, hoping they would give me some idea of where to go, what to do next. This time last year, I found out about coaching and jumped right in.

I have big dreams about where my coaching business will go. I’m excited about all of the people I will help and the ripple effect that will have. Do I know exactly how I will get there from here? Nope. And honestly, until I got that “no,” I think I was grasping at straws trying to find some kind of opportunity that would launch my coaching career. I was spending a lot of time trying to make things happen.

That cancellation made me take a step back and re-evaluate. I decided that I’d continue to take a step back, to take the next month off in what I declared the Month of Me. I’m going to keep my weeknights free and read and write and go to yoga. Come right home after work and cook for my husband. I’ll work on my business from the inside out. In no way am I giving up on my business but I need space in my life right now. Space to create.

I declared the Month of Me to my coach on Tuesday and said I was starting that night. I didn’t want to wait ‘til June. I’d have 6 weeks of me. This felt so right. So empowering. So free.

Wednesday—the next day—I got 6 emails with opportunities to move my business forward. I got an email from someone I’d last spoken to in March about a vision board party. That night I had a brainstorming call that turned into a session booked for mid-June (that I scheduled on a Sunday to keep my weeknight space free). On Thursday two more opportunities came in, including the opportunity to write this post.

What do I think happened here?

It’s like I was stuck in a box. I was trying to bust through the walls hoping for a breakthrough, an opportunity that would take me to freedom. I tried looking high and low for even the smallest opening, thinking it would be my big break. Trying to make it happen may have worked eventually, but I’m exhausted just thinking about the energy that force would’ve taken.

Being stuck isn’t fun. It’s super uncomfortable. Spinning your wheels and getting nowhere is really frustrating. It feels really bad because we think we should be somewhere else. That judgment makes it feel so much worse.

But when we let go of where we think we should be, and allow ourselves to be where we are, magic happens.

joanna plattJoanna Platt of Cup of Tea Coaching helps clients get unstuck in career and life. Coaching is perfect for her because it marries her love of people with her love of personal development books. In addition to reading, Joanna also loves writing and chronicled her life as a twenty-something newlywed on her blog, Things After the Rings. Joanna lives, works, and dreams big in Washington, DC.  

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  3. Michele says:

    “I was spending a lot of time trying to make things happen.”

    Oh my!I’ve been in those shoes.Over the past several years I have tried so hard to make my soap business work then one day I looked up,and nothing was thriving. My daughter needed me,the houseplants were withered and dying, my husband needed me,my home needed maintenance,my yard was crying out for attention, and I was a shambles-overweight,practically agoraphobic from all the “lack of maintenance”and isolation. Intuitively I knew I needed to begin with me.I’m making big changes to me,and slowly I can see things taking a turn for the better.

    This post makes me feel so good-like somehow I can trust my intuition.

    • Joanna says:

      Lots of love and hugs to you, Michele! Keep following that intuition. It is such a gift. The more you listen to it, the stronger it will become. Make a practice of trusting your intuition and see where it takes you. I’ve been working on this myself and it’s pretty gratifying to see things work out.

  4. A lot of times I put myself on the back burner. Focusing on things around me, with hopes that if those are better than things for me will be better. But you know what? That’s not fixing it!

    After reading this post, I realize that I need to make more of an effort to focus on me. Thanks for that nudge!

    • Joanna says:

      You’re welcome! Happy to nudge anyone in that direction!

      Want to join me in the Month of Me? It’s pretty fun! I’m not doing anything too crazy. Adding some more yoga. Reading a lot of fiction. Mostly adding things that allow me to re-charge.

      What would a Month of Me or even a Moment of Me look like for you?

  5. Caylie Price says:

    I so enjoyed this post Joanna! It totally warmed my heart.
    I have also been trying so hard but wasn’t looking after myself. I’ve now decided I will take the time to have a read in the bath every night to relax, rather than race through the shower. It’s amazing the ideas that come to me and the progress I make after allowing myself that time out.

    • Joanna says:

      Thanks, Caylie! My heart is warmed reading that!

      Isn’t amazing the ideas and the solutions that come to you when you allow space for them to arrive?

      Reading in the bath sounds SO luxurious! And you deserve it. Enjoy it!

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  7. Coral says:

    Love this post. I know exactly what you mean. I’m very guilty of trying too hard. I often bemoan to my husband “why do I have to push so hard to make things happen?” We’ll, maybe I don’t. I’ve put out gentle suggestions to the world and let the universe take care of the rest over the last couple of months. Things are starting to happen the way I hoped the would without all the push and force. Better results for less effort – oh yeah!

    Love the idea of self care and taking time out. I did it last weekend. It felt incredibly indulgent but oh so good. Recharged and ready to take in the world.

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